Loving yourself when it all goes wrong

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As a therapist or wellbeing teacher you are an expert in offering loving kindness to your clients. In a therapy session or class, you will think nothing of offering clients compassion and empathy, you understand the need to be fully present with them, so they feel seen and heard. You know that kindness is a necessary step to true healing.

In fact, I would go so far as to say that your kindness is your super power.

But do you offer yourself such kindness and compassion to yourself when it comes to how you run or work within your own wellbeing business? Do you berate yourself when you make a mistake, worrying that you are not working hard enough  or obsessing over other therapists or teachers that appear to have it all? 

Then to top it off you feel guilty for having these feelings; heck you are supposed to be an expert at loving kindness - you teach others how to do it!

Before you go into a complete meltdown around this idea let me bring you back to earth, you are after all only human and guess what - we all experience those feelings, especially when business is a little hard and not going the way we would expect.

I could at this point write a lot of examples about how you can be kind to yourself, but let’s be honest you already know how to do this. But do you actually remember to do this when the going gets tough? Do you go inside and remember to practice compassion for yourself even when you have messed up big time or you are feeling overwhelming jealousy towards another wellbeing practitioner?

If you can find a little compassion within yourself at these times you are on the way to creating a wellbeing business in line with your own beliefs and values. This doesn’t mean that you don’t have to take responsibility for the fact that you screwed up or that you don’t need to look at why you are feeling jealous…

In the early days of owning the wellbeing Clinic there were plenty of times that I messed up big time; when I look back now I realise I was really hard on myself, constantly worrying that people wouldn’t like me or that I had not worked hard enough to bring enough clients in. I made life very stressful for myself physically and emotionally – it felt as though there was so much at stake and it was all my responsibility. Fast forward several years and after a lot of personal development I have learnt that by working from a place of compassion and sense of self, you get to move forward with mindfulness and kindness that can only be good for yourself and your clients.

If you know someone who needs to show themselves a little compassion pass it on. 

If you want to read more about how to create you wellbeing business your way then have a look at my book on amazon. 

With Loving Kindness 

Helen Pinnock xxx

My 6 top tips for starting your wellbeing business

My 6 top tips for starting your wellbeing business

6 tips for starting a wellbeing business 

Starting your own wellbeing business is hugely exciting and liberating, your creativity can flow like never before. You can tap into your heart’s desires you can create a business inline with your own values and passions.

How do you turn your dream wellbeing business into a reality? This quote from Annabel Karmel sums it up perfectly.

“The difference between dreaming of starting a business and actually doing it is the right combination of passion, planning, commitment and good advice.” Annabel Karmel

Here are my six tips.

1. Do what you love and believe in your idea.

If you are going to create your own business, choose the idea that sets your heart on fire, that sets you alight. We all have different passions, something that we love doing. What is that one thing that you do that you have an overwhelming desire to share with the world?

2. Ask yourself the question, “Am I going to enjoy running a business?”

This may seem a little odd, but running a business is not for everyone. Just because you have a passion that you want to share with the world does not mean that running a business is the way to do it.

I love running businesses, I thrive on the ups and downs, the unknowns, the meeting of new people, the new challenges it brings, serving my customers. I also enjoy the challenges that having staff can bring.

3. Planning.

Plan and research; to many business people this bit feels a bit of a tie, after all, you have your exciting idea, your passion and you can’t wait to get started. But trust me, the more that you do in the planning the more chance of success you have. DO A BUSINESS PLAN, even if you are not trying to raise funding? If like me you are a blue sky thinker you may find this a challenge, this has been one of the times in the past I have used a business coach to hold me accountable. He helped me to ground my ideas and my thoughts into a reality, he held me accountable for doing the work. And boy was he right; the act of writing down and researching helped my business to grow.

4. Support network.

Surround yourself with people who will support your dream unconditionally, people who get it (the desire to set your own path) – friends, partner, business coach; business can be a lonely place. I could not have been successful in my business without all three of these groups.

5. Be persistent.

If you follow tip number 1 to 4 then tip number 5 will come your way. Running a business, no matter how well you have done all the planning and got support from the right people there are going to be challenges along the way. In my experience challenges usually arise just before a growth.

6. Buy my book - From client to clinic owner - create your wellbeing business from the inside out.

I wrote this book for you if you want to create a successful career in wellbeing. I started out as a reflexologist after having my first child – I knows what it is like to be an alternative health practitioner filled with a passion to treat as many people as possible...but I also knows the challenges of running a wellbeing business the fear, sense of overwhelm the money blocks. Based on my personal experiences I shares valuable insights and practical powerful exercises to help you create your wellbeing business:

- Get clarity about your business vision and who your ideal clients are.

- By understanding who your clients are, you can create authentic connections.

- Create a brand in line with your values and build a community of clients who love you.

- Create goals, manage your time and keep moving forward.

- Understand how to price your practice or class and why it matters.

If you are an alternative health practitioner, counsellor, yoga or mindfulness teacher who has a passion for what you do but are struggling to fill your practice or class, this book will provide you with honest, practical advice that will enable you to follow your heart and bring your healing skills to life.


Have you used either of these steps? If so, which one?

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